crysthewolf

So a friend of mine recently had a nasty experience with a girl who said she "wasn't ready to date" him when he expressed an interest in her. She strung him along for a while, went on some dates with him (even though she "wasn't ready"), and then, a few days ago, told him that she didn't want to continue pursuing their relationship and promptly began DATING (officially as I understand it) another young man.

I kept my mouth shut during most of the fiasco because I wanted to be wrong, but my friend Ron didn't. That's why I love Ron but, I was honestly hoping that it would turn out well for my friend, and it was unfortunate that it didn't.

Something similar happened to him a few years ago actually... he was really into a girl who kept saying that she wasn't ready to date and she wasn't ready to date. He didn't TELL her that he was into her, because, well, she wasn't ready to date. He didn't want to make her feel uncomfortable or pursued when she didn't want to be. After a couple of years (hey, the boy's dedicated) of waiting it out while she went in and out of being "not ready", she started dating another friend of theirs (after she'd said she "wasn't ready"), and he finally gave up the ghost.

I only found out about that one a couple of weeks ago. That girl was me. And I am here to testify...

That it's BULLSHIT.

Oh sure, people say things like that all the time. And we're always trying to figure out the "right way" to do things. We do all the right things. We say all the right things. And in the end? It all comes to bullshit.

Why?

Because there are no right things.

And there are no wrong things.

And so, because I found out about all of this nonsense via Twitter (pretty much all around), my rant tonight takes the form of a Twrant:

crysthewolf Yeah, I'll attest to this... when chicks say "I'm not ready to date"? We're completely full of shit. about 4 hours ago from BeTwittered

Nameless Friend: @crysthewolf well the first time I listened when a woman said that and I got screwed ;). The second time I ignored it and got screwed... frmo web in reply to crysthewolf

crysthewolf@Nameless Friend lol, well I tried to warn you. "Hmmm, not ready to date, I remember back when I said that it was a load of shit." about 1 hour ago from web in reply to Nameless Friend

crysthewolf @Nameless Friend granted, I was saying it because the crazy cult people said I wasn't ready to date. about 1 hour agoNameless Friend

crysthewolf < @Nameless Friend you know, maybe the next time a woman says that, you ought to just make a run for it, eh? 42 minutes ago from the web in reply to Nameless Friend

crysthewolfI think I need to make a chick version of "He's Just Not That Into You." Except that it wouldn't be a chick version, because I'm not sexist 41 minutes ago from the web

crysthewolfIt would be a version that actually had HELPFUL advice, instead of making you second guess your perfectly healthy relationship because 40 minutes ago from the web

crysthewolfyour dude doesn't have his head up your ass. 40 minutes ago from the web

crysthewolfGAAAH! I swear to BOB my cat FINDS shit that she can knock off shelves!!!!! 37 minutes ago from the web

crysthewolfbreathes* ok, my book. That's better than "He's Just Not That Into You". It'll be called, "Signs that you should make a run for it." 37 minutes ago from the web

crysthewolfSign one: you hang around, show your interest, and she says "I'm not ready to date." 36 minutes ago from the web

crysthewolfSign two: She's still living with her ex. 36 minutes ago from the web

crysthewolfSign three: He has to change the locks on his ex. 35 minutes ago from the web

crysthewolfSign four: your ex tells you that HIS ex had a one night stand with him... 34 minutes ago from the web

crysthewolfSign five: his ex takes you to lunch to tell you that she's his ex... 33 minutes ago from the web

crysthewolfSign six: she gives you some bullshit list of signs as an excuse to not date you. 33 minutes ago from the web

crysthewolfSign seven: You mention that a friend is reading "He's Just Not That Into You" and he suggests you should read it too. 33 minutes ago from the web

crysthewolfExcept that, aside from the LAST one? All of those signs are actually bullshit. 'Cause you know what? Dating, relationships, romance, passion, 33 minutes ago from the web

crysthewolflove... they don't come with a how-to manual. Or, incidentally, a how NOT to manual. People try to tell themselves they do, but they DON'T. 32 minutes ago from the web

crysthewolfYou don't have any choice, no matter what kind of person you are, it won't let you plan it out. 32 minutes ago from the web

crysthewolfIt'll kick you in the ass and then kiss you better. It'll completely fuck you over and then, five minutes later, give you the world. 31 minutes ago from the web

crysthewolfIt's life. By the way? THAT doesn't come with an instruction manual EITHER. 31 minutes ago from the web

crysthewolf*tosses hat* good luck kiddies. 31 minutes ago from the web

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