[Error: unknown template qotd] my knee-jerk reaction is to echo virginia-fell and say "whoever didn't ask me to choose." I don't do ultimatums very well, but then I generally don't have much USE for them either. Still, it makes me think... if I had a friend who was REALLY my friend, and they told me that they wanted me to choose between them and my significant other, who would I choose to trust? I trust Chris implicitly. I trust my close friends only slightly less. If someone close enough to me to consider a "close friend" felt so strongly that they would ASK me to choose (because few of my friends WOULD ever ask me to choose)... what would I do with that?
I can think of only one friend who's opinion I would consider even remotely so valuable as to consider the matter at all, and I cannot imagine that he would ever, EVER give me that sort of ultimatum.
As far as Chris is concerned, that's a no-brainer... he wouldn't give me that kind of ultimatum either. But if I were with someone who did... I think that would definitely make me rethink the whole relationship. My S/O doesn't have to love all of my friends and all of my friends don't have to love my S/O... but if one dislikes the other so much that they'd consider giving me an ultimatum, I would have to consider both sides very carefully. SO I suppose my answer is not so succinct as "whoever didn't ask me to choose", as much as I'd like it to be. I guess my answer would have to be, like so many of my answers to questions like this; I don't know, it would depend upon the situation, and regardless, it would make me seriously consider both the friend and the S/O.
I have only had one instance where someone gave me that kind of ultimatum... it's either your boyfriend or us. I'm not with that boyfriend anymore... but I don't speak to those people anymore either. Their actions were indicative of the sort of people they are and the manner in which they conduct their relationships (which is to say that they feel the need to control and manipulate), and it was a manner in which I decided I preferred to never, ever have a relationship again.
So perhaps that answers that question better than anything else.