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Or it may be a CSA (Crystal Service Announcement), 'cause I'm really the one who's affected most by this.
So my PSA is this. There are some people, who's personalities are just predisposed to completely ignore nagging. There's something about us that makes it so that the level of motivation we have to do a thing sinks in direct proportion to the level of pestering we get from other people. I don't know WHY this happens, I simply know that it DOES.
In case you haven't gathered, I'm one of those people. And if you haven't noticed, I actually have this funny habit of making GOOD decisions for my own life. When left to my own devices, I DON'T tend to sit on my ass and do nothing, I DO take responsibility for myself and my life. I would like to go somewhere. That road moves one step at a time. So, even if you don't visibly SEE everything I do, even if I don't TALK to you about it, I'm still moving forward. Always.
So, no matter what you might think, you don't need to keep after me about things.
But it's more than that. When you DO keep after me about things, I stop wanting to do them.
It's something that I'm working on, but in the meantime, I have a lot of REALLY wonderful friends who REALLY want me to succeed and are REALLY trying to help. And a lot of them are trying to keep me motivated by keeping after me to get things done that they think I need to get done, and that's GREAT.
Now, please stop.
I don't mean to be a jerk, you're all very wonderful and I appreciate your concern. I REALLY do! I'm not just saying that! It's NICE to be cared about, and I haven't felt that in a long time. But, please, send me an exercise video, forward me a job opportunity, post recipes from your diet, and every GREAT once in a while, ask me what I've done to accomplish my goals. Because yes, every once in a while, I need a reminder.
But please, if you really REALLY wanna help, don't pester me. I'm not saying that because I'm sick of hearing it... I'm actually NOT sick of hearing it. It's NOT annoying. It's very SWEET and I thank you ALL. BUT, unfortunately, it's also anti-motivating, and right now I need as much motivation as I can possibly get. So, I know it's a little counterintuitive, but please don't keep bugging me about things you think I should do. Once is enough, and once in a while is fine, but if you do it too much, I'm afraid that I'll end up sticking my heels in the ground and doing nothing, and I don't want that.
Now, if you come up with an idea for something you think that I need to do and I disagree with it and don't do it, you'd be better off to leave it alone. Because after eight years of handing my life and my decisions over to someone else constantly, I'm pretty damned adamant about making my own. ;)
And, believe it or not, I'm pretty damned good at it, too.
Love,
Crystal
Edit: I wanted to add that if there's a project or something I've said I would help you with or money that I owe you, this blog doesn't apply to that. ;) I fully expect to be nagged over things I owe or things I commit to. 'Cause if I slack off on that, it's your business to make a fuss about it, because you're the one affected by it. Y'know?
So my PSA is this. There are some people, who's personalities are just predisposed to completely ignore nagging. There's something about us that makes it so that the level of motivation we have to do a thing sinks in direct proportion to the level of pestering we get from other people. I don't know WHY this happens, I simply know that it DOES.
In case you haven't gathered, I'm one of those people. And if you haven't noticed, I actually have this funny habit of making GOOD decisions for my own life. When left to my own devices, I DON'T tend to sit on my ass and do nothing, I DO take responsibility for myself and my life. I would like to go somewhere. That road moves one step at a time. So, even if you don't visibly SEE everything I do, even if I don't TALK to you about it, I'm still moving forward. Always.
So, no matter what you might think, you don't need to keep after me about things.
But it's more than that. When you DO keep after me about things, I stop wanting to do them.
It's something that I'm working on, but in the meantime, I have a lot of REALLY wonderful friends who REALLY want me to succeed and are REALLY trying to help. And a lot of them are trying to keep me motivated by keeping after me to get things done that they think I need to get done, and that's GREAT.
Now, please stop.
I don't mean to be a jerk, you're all very wonderful and I appreciate your concern. I REALLY do! I'm not just saying that! It's NICE to be cared about, and I haven't felt that in a long time. But, please, send me an exercise video, forward me a job opportunity, post recipes from your diet, and every GREAT once in a while, ask me what I've done to accomplish my goals. Because yes, every once in a while, I need a reminder.
But please, if you really REALLY wanna help, don't pester me. I'm not saying that because I'm sick of hearing it... I'm actually NOT sick of hearing it. It's NOT annoying. It's very SWEET and I thank you ALL. BUT, unfortunately, it's also anti-motivating, and right now I need as much motivation as I can possibly get. So, I know it's a little counterintuitive, but please don't keep bugging me about things you think I should do. Once is enough, and once in a while is fine, but if you do it too much, I'm afraid that I'll end up sticking my heels in the ground and doing nothing, and I don't want that.
Now, if you come up with an idea for something you think that I need to do and I disagree with it and don't do it, you'd be better off to leave it alone. Because after eight years of handing my life and my decisions over to someone else constantly, I'm pretty damned adamant about making my own. ;)
And, believe it or not, I'm pretty damned good at it, too.
Love,
Crystal
Edit: I wanted to add that if there's a project or something I've said I would help you with or money that I owe you, this blog doesn't apply to that. ;) I fully expect to be nagged over things I owe or things I commit to. 'Cause if I slack off on that, it's your business to make a fuss about it, because you're the one affected by it. Y'know?
