What irks me...
Jun. 17th, 2008 02:48 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
crysthewolfWhen people act like the bullshit that falls on your life is your own fault, regardless of whether and how much you've been working your ass off to better your life. I also dislike it when people judge you by your position in life without taking into consideration whether or not life has given you the same kinds of breaks it's given other people, or whether you knew shit about it going in, or whether you had anyone help you in ANY way (even if it was just giving some useful advice) or knew what the fuck you were doing before you screwed things up to put you where you are.
And it pisses me off when they do it without bothering to consider, or hell, even ASK, how your life has gone or what you're doing now. They just assume that because you don't make much money and you're not in school right this second you must be a lazy fucking failure.
AND, ALSO, it is beginning to irk me when people blame other people for their own unhappiness. You know what? SOMETIMES BAD SHIT HAPPENS, AND SOMETIMES, I GET TO BE UPSET ABOUT THAT! SOMETIMES, I would like to tell people to shove their sunshine, up their ASSES. Yes, thinking positive is good... but for all you positive thinkers out there (and positive thinking encouragers), be careful that you aren't coming off as berating people for their own unhappiness. Because that really, REALLY doesn't help. Trust me.
Realize, sometimes, when I'm having a shitty day, you need to just back off and let me be shitty about it. And sometimes, when life has shitten upon me, you need to figure out where the line is between giving advice, and blaming me for it, or even judging me for it. I LIKE advice, but it crosses over into blaming and judging a little too often.
Think of it this way... it's the difference between saying "Hm, here's what you could do" and saying "I know what you're doing, and it isn't enough."
Because frankly, you don't know what I'm doing.
Love,
Crystal
And it pisses me off when they do it without bothering to consider, or hell, even ASK, how your life has gone or what you're doing now. They just assume that because you don't make much money and you're not in school right this second you must be a lazy fucking failure.
AND, ALSO, it is beginning to irk me when people blame other people for their own unhappiness. You know what? SOMETIMES BAD SHIT HAPPENS, AND SOMETIMES, I GET TO BE UPSET ABOUT THAT! SOMETIMES, I would like to tell people to shove their sunshine, up their ASSES. Yes, thinking positive is good... but for all you positive thinkers out there (and positive thinking encouragers), be careful that you aren't coming off as berating people for their own unhappiness. Because that really, REALLY doesn't help. Trust me.
Realize, sometimes, when I'm having a shitty day, you need to just back off and let me be shitty about it. And sometimes, when life has shitten upon me, you need to figure out where the line is between giving advice, and blaming me for it, or even judging me for it. I LIKE advice, but it crosses over into blaming and judging a little too often.
Think of it this way... it's the difference between saying "Hm, here's what you could do" and saying "I know what you're doing, and it isn't enough."
Because frankly, you don't know what I'm doing.
Love,
Crystal
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Date: 2008-06-18 03:01 pm (UTC)In my own little storm right now? I feel quit the opposite. Everyone is being so NICE to me.
I broke him, I left him and they are being NICE.
Or not speaking to me at all.
Not sure which is worse.