What irks me...

When people act like the bullshit that falls on your life is your own fault, regardless of whether and how much you've been working your ass off to better your life.  I also dislike it when people judge you by your position in life without taking into consideration whether or not life has given you the same kinds of breaks it's given other people, or whether you knew shit about it going in, or whether you had anyone help you in ANY way (even if it was just giving some useful advice) or knew what the fuck you were doing before you screwed things up to put you where you are.

And it pisses me off when they do it without bothering to consider, or hell, even ASK, how your life has gone or what you're doing now.  They just assume that because you don't make much money and you're not in school right this second you must be a lazy fucking failure.

AND, ALSO, it is beginning to irk me when people blame other people for their own unhappiness.  You know what?  SOMETIMES BAD SHIT HAPPENS, AND SOMETIMES, I GET TO BE UPSET ABOUT THAT!  SOMETIMES, I would like to tell people to shove their sunshine, up their ASSES.  Yes, thinking positive is good... but for all you positive thinkers out there (and positive thinking encouragers), be careful that you aren't coming off as berating people for their own unhappiness.  Because that really, REALLY doesn't help.  Trust me.

Realize, sometimes, when I'm having a shitty day, you need to just back off and let me be shitty about it.  And sometimes, when life has shitten upon me, you need to figure out where the line is between giving advice, and blaming me for it, or even judging me for it.  I LIKE advice, but it crosses over into blaming and judging a little too often.  

Think of it this way... it's the difference between saying "Hm, here's what you could do" and saying "I know what you're doing, and it isn't enough."

Because frankly, you don't know what I'm doing.

Love,
Crystal

Addendum to the last entry...

If you're curious about good ways to handle people going through shitty things, please see

per_solo
friendstephen
abond
popfiend
the_dark_snack

...JUST to name a few.  I'm sure there are PLENTY more (and some that do more offline than online), but those are some I know for sure.  Just, watch and learn. 

 

Love,
Crystal

Hmmm

I don't want the last few posts to give off the air that I'm never happy.  I'm actually quite OFTEN happy! =D  See? ;)  Seriously, I've usually got a pretty bright outlook on life.  Even now, with having a boss that drives me nuts and having found out that my old job is not available, I'm pretty positive.  I feel good now that I'm actually looking for something else.. have that sense of "yes, this may last a while longer, but it's STILL temporary", have that feeling of NOT being "resigned to my fate" as it were. 

I feel like I've overcome a lot of shit in my life and I'm happy with myself and where I'm going.  I'm even, sometimes, happy with where I AM. ;)  But I'm more happy with where I'm headed.  I'm proud of myself. ;)  And you would be too, if I bragged more about my accomplishments. ;)

Otay, so some of you already ARE. :)

Anyway.  I thought I'd post a happy post.  I AM happy sometimes (even now! ;) )....quite OFTEN times, as a matter of fact.  I'm just, also, a bit dynamic. ;)  That's a good word, right? =)

I just like to have OPTIONS. ;)  teehee.

Love,
Crystal